“When you understand,” Brandy says, “that what you’re telling is just a story. It isn’t happening anymore. When you realize the story you’re telling is just words, when you can just crumble up and throw your past in the trashcan,” Brandy says, “then we’ll figure out who you’re going to be.” ― Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters
The beautiful thing about loss is that there is always something new to discover that will take that place. A person to love, a new hobby full of joy, an internal mission to find peace, and the list goes on. The other thing to find, or notice in loss, is the reminder that we all are mortal.
The idea of us being mortal should be solidly internalized. By remembering this, you take more risk for joy and happiness. You don’t sweat the small stuff. You don’t fight for control and instead embrace the chaos which is life. Everything gets easier. Hate goes away. Nothing matters except for the present.
The past is now only a story but it doesn’t need to define you. At any moment you can redefine your life and become the person you always wanted to.
“If by chance some day you’re not feeling well and you should remember some silly thing I’ve said or done and it brings back a smile to your face or a chuckle to your heart, then my purpose as your clown has been fulfilled.”
– Red Skelton
“My goal is to be myself, and to challenge stereotypes, and to follow the rules, and break them, and make new rules. It’s not about doing something that’s already been done. That would be silly.”
– Sasha Grey
“‘Have fun’ is my message. Be silly. You’re allowed to be silly. There’s nothing wrong with it.”
– Jimmy Fallon